Loving A Bad Girl

Here is a letter than one of our visitors sent. I have changed his name to protect them. I have no idea why he put is real name on it, maybe he really does like abuse. We only publish letters with your permission guys. If you do not want a email to be published then please state this clearly on the letter. Hopefully these problem letters can help other people out there that might be having the same problems with the opposite sex. Most problems can be talked through in our Member forums which are bustling with Mens-Network staff and fellow Mens-Network members who are more than willing to help you.

Dear Dudes,

I have this problem. I thought I would come to you for some advice. I don't know what to do, but I know that I am in a strange situation. Sometimes I want to get out of it, but other times I find it to be a real turn on.I met her in a bar. I was new to the area and I went to this bar that was near my house. At the time I didn't know it was a bar for bikers. I went in a few times and had a few drinks. I really liked it there. It was a manly type of place where I could blow off steam with other guys. I have never been around bikers, so this was a new experience for me. I have always liked motor cycles, but was afraid to ride one.

I met this nice looking girl and we started to date. She is the leather and Harley kind of woman. I kind of liked having her take me out for long rides on her bike. I have never done anything like this. At first all I was interested in was her lifestyle. I had no interested in her. One day we went to the bar and had a few drinks. She came back to my place and we had sex. Shortly after I moved out of my place and moved in with her. I really didn't know her too well, but I was interested in her lifestyle.

I soon found out that she is the bad girl type. She smokes cigarettes all day long. She doesn't wear panties. I thought I would dig a chick that doesn't wear panties, but she gets a lot of yeast infections. She drinks hard liquor all the time. She has an anger level so low, she will get pissed off if I look at her the wrong way. If she was a man, some guys would call her a tough ass. She won't take shit from no one. She tells me when and what to cook. She tells me when I need to clean the house. I am her slave.

I don't mind that stuff that much dudes, I really don't. What bothers me is how she acts in public. She acts like a total guy. I mean we will go over to my parents house for dinner and she will burp while she eats. One time we were in a fancy restaurant and she let out a big wet fart in front of everyone. It was so bad, there was a wet spot in her pants. I was so embarrassed that I asked for a doggie bag so I could eat the rest of my meal at home.

What should I do?

Signed, 'Stupid Fool' (That is what you get for signing with your real name!)

I think what you have is a strong case of the bad girl syndrome. Yes folks, we all will get turned on by a woman like this some time in our lives. Usually we get turned on by that tom boy in school and it doesn't go any further than that. I guess its like getting the chicken pox, it is best to get it while you are young. There isn't much you can do with these types of women. Uusally if you say too much to them they will leave you. You need to decide how much you can take.

If you can't take any more of this, you need to leave. I know that some men find it kinky to be with a bad girl. They like it when a woman tells them what to do. I'm sure some men would love your woman, yeast infections and all. I'm not much into this myself. I like you, find the motor cycle lifestyle to be interesting, but not worth per suing. I don't think I would last ten minutes on a motor cycle or on your girlfriend.

There isn't a whole lot I can tell you that you don't already know. I think you know what you want to do, but you don't have the balls to do it. Maybe that is why you got involved with a woman like this. You don't know what you want in life, so you want someone who will tell you what you want. There isn't much of a chance you will be able to talk much sense into a woman like this. She will be stuck in her ways and nothing is going to change you. You can try though. It doesn't hurt, unless you know she is going to bitch slap you if you piss her off. I would tell her that you need some room and you don't like being told what to do all the time.

If this doesn't work, then I would leave. There is no reason to put up with this sort of thing. Chances are she is taking out her problems on you. You can't be a punching bag all your life. Chances are if you split, then someone will fill your place. Let some other guy put up with her stuff.

Paranoid (Cheating)

Have you ever cheated on your woman? Many men have, but few will admit to it. Sometimes I think this is the worst thing a person can do to another. I'm sure that you could argue that killing someone is worse, but when you cheat, you are killing them emotionally. A person who has went through such an experience, never comes back the same. I really do think that being cheated on, changes a person. Women view cheating on many levels. Some are quick to jump the gun while other women are more thoughtful when it comes to it. In this article, we will discuss what a woman views as cheating.

Most women view having sex with another woman as cheating. This should be common sense. Though, I have heard many times where a man will claim that he didn't know it was cheating. He will make up some lame ass excuse about how he thought the relationship was on the rocks.

Having sex with someone and cheating on your woman is plain wrong. Think of it from this perspective. If you catch a disease and come home and sleep with her, then you will give it to her. Your 'fun' with your mistress might be great, but your woman has nothing to do with it. By risking her health, you are doing something worse than cheating, you could end up killing her.

If you aren't getting any sex in a relationship or it has turned south, you need to get out of it. You have no right to expose someone else to diseases. It is your responsibility to do something about it. You are an adult now, you need to do things on your own.

Some women view kissing as cheating as well. In my mind, it is cheating. I'm not sure how someone can justify getting aroused enough by someone to kiss them and not think they are cheating.

If aunt Betsy comes over from Alaska and she kisses you on the cheek because she hasn't seen you for a long time, that isn't cheating. Of course if it is a relative or close friend, then its not cheating. If it is out of lust it is. Chances are, kissing will only lead to other things.

If you are kissing another woman, it brings up a lot of questions. It would sound to me that you aren't in the stage that you are having sex with this woman, but it is coming soon. Most men aren't able to kiss a woman without having sexual thoughts.

The same questions apply in my mind as if you were having sex with someone else. There must be some aspect of the current relationship you are in that is lacking or you wouldn't be doing such things. It is better to fix these problems than it is to run away from them. All you will be doing is ensuring that nothing positive happens.

I know that it might be hard to believe, but some women believe that if you are just friends with a woman, then you must be cheating. To some women this is cheating, thought I think this is going a little too far.

Women feel that if you are confiding in another woman, then that is cheating. If you are telling her things that you would have told your girlfriend, you are cheating. They think that you should pour your heart and soul into them instead of this other woman. They might be right to a certain degree, but this isn't cheating. You should be able to go to your girlfriend and talk to them about anything and everything, but there are things you can't talk about to her. Try talking to her about how bitchy she is during her period, you will soon find out that you can't talk about anything and everything.

Some women will always think their men are cheating. Regardless how you try to prove yourself, they will always be lurking around the corner trying to catch you in the act. I have known several women like this. I have even known one man like this. I worked with his wife in a small office. She told him that we were talking every day at lunch and he flipped out. He accused us of having sex together. That is a bit extreme, but people do react this way.

I would suggest that if your woman constantly thinks you are cheating, you need to talk to her about it. Some people do act in suspicious manners, while some women have this fixation that all men are scum of the earth. You need to decide which camp she is in.

Some women constantly nag and bitch that you are cheating on them when you aren't. I think sometimes this is because they were cheated on in the past and are afraid that it will happen to them again. Other times, I think they are paranoid and have emotional problems.

Needless to say, regardless of why she thinks this, there is a problem. If in fact you are cheating on her, you already know what the problem is. But, if she is fixed on the idea that you are cheating and it is ruining your life, you need to get out. This is one of the worst forms of harassment there is. There is no need for you to have to put up with this sort of thing. This is the type of thing in a relationship that will drive a man to kill himself or to drink.

If you are cheating, cut off your penis. You are a worthless bastard who only thinks of yourself. If you aren't cheating and she always complains that you are, find out why she feels this way. If she is just paranoid, dump her. Life is too short for her games.

Oral Sex Orgasms

With more than half the year gone I’d like to know how many of us have achieved an absolutely mind blowing orgasm or helped their partner achieve one. Did you know that more than 30% of women in the world cannot experience and orgasm? It made me wonder what an orgasm like this would be like until I experienced one myself and it wasn’t until 7 years ago that I first realized what I had been missing out on for all these years. For many women the best way of achieving a wild orgasm where your body seems to explode all the way from your toes to your clit and the most consistent way is through oral sex.

I am going on what I have learnt over 4 years as a working girl seeing men and women on a daily basis and am prepared to share a technique that a lot of men have tried on their partners… If a partner knows how to give outstanding oral sex then a woman will reach an orgasm majority of the time…

My partner certainly knows how to play with my little button and he sure knows how to make my bells ring… so guys help your partners experience this wonderful sensation that I enjoy so much…

Hmmm I can see some of you looking at your partners and asking that question, “How can I give you what she’s having?”

It reminds me of the shampoo commercial with Meg Ryan in it, “Oh yesss!!! Yes!!! Yes!!!!” “I’ll have what she’s having”…

Ok guys lets get down to some real fun with your partner.

There are many different ways to give oral to your partner and all I can say is, the best way is the way you and your partner feel most comfortable with.

Both you and your partner should be in a comfortable and relaxed position and ladies YOU NEED to tell your partner what you want him to do!!!! Enjoying and pleasing is a team effort so to speak, enjoy sex at it’s best for both of you, not just one of you.

Foreplay can be fun if you let your bodies relax and enjoy the sensual touching that can be experienced either in or out of bed. Sexual encounters do not have to take place in bed or they can take place anywhere that you feel comfortable.

I like lying near a roaring fire on a sheepskin wool rug in winter, watching a XXX video and sipping on a glass of wine. In the kitchen is good too, but just remember to have a wide enough bench top and remove sharp knives in case of a slip-up of some sort…. Showering with a friend can also be exciting, but sometimes, oral services can get water logged.

Ok, back to guys giving oral to their partner…

Here is an excerpt from a story I once wrote:

”I want you to suck my clit and lick my pussy… that’s right, I want you to kneel between my legs and use your tongue, tickle my clit, lick my pussy juice. I want you to fuck my cunt with your tongue.

My legs are open for you cause I am as horny as hell and my juices want to flow as you bring me to a mind-blowing orgasm.

Oh yes, that is so nice, tease my pussy, flick my clit softly, don’t point your tongue, use the flat part of your tongue to lick me. My pussy loves to be licked, I want to feel you caress my pussy with your hot tongue, make it tingle all over…

With your head between my thighs, my pussy is hot as you lick, tasting my juices one more time. Sliding one finger into my twat, you tickle my g-spot, playing with a sensitive area that makes me have wild orgasms. I love it Steve and I don’t want you to stop… push two fingers into my hole now and fuck me hard with them as you lick my clit… Oh Steve, I’m Cumming now!!! Fuck me harder!! That’s it, harder, suck on my clit … oh yes ahhhhhh”

Hmmm, I love reading this part of the story…

However, there are parts of this story that you should pay attention to.
1. Use the flat of your tongue - really going to town and sucking on a girl’s clit may sound exciting to some men, but I have found that it can also turn a girl off with the continual sucking.

Ok to help you guys along a bit about how this may feel to a lady… Think about how the head of your cock feels just after you have ejaculated… sensitive right? Yep, well going on my experience that is what it feels like to have your clit sucked over and over. On that note some ladies may enjoy it, so really it is individually based on what your partner’s sense of arousal and the sensations that this may cause. Hope this makes sense…

2. Listen to her - if she tells you to fuck her pussy with your tongue, then do it, follow her lead but at the same time experiment, use your fingers to please and tease at the same time, if she likes toys, use them gently unless she tells you to fuck her harder and harder with them…

3. Ladies, tell your man what you want, don’t be afraid to open up and tell him your needs.

Above all else, relax and enjoy your sexual experiences together. If you can’t relax your mind-blowing orgasm may not happen… so please ladies take my advice, relax and you will enjoy… focus on a point that is most sensitive and let it happen for you….

On that note, I hope you all give it a go and enjoy the oral experience that we all desire. Mind-blowing orgasms are wild and fantastic; foreplay with out intercourse can be a wonderful way to play.

Please remember that I am not a Sex Therapist, but I am a sex worker who learns so much from her clients, male and female and of course the couples I see.

Something New for the Couples from Lovecentria™

There are lots of factors that gets in the way of most couples to make sex less exciting as time goes by. Using the same positions every time and building up an unshakable routine sometimes becomes so tiring. The fact that life tends to dampen enthusiasm in the long run, it is a good idea that couples should try some new variations --- especially in getting terms with intimacy.

Variation can easily and delightfully be achieved by learning new sex positions. Far from being nothing but frills, positions are actually a great way of making the other feel your love. It allows the two lovers to play with each other and to find new ways of getting and giving pleasure. If you feel that sex is getting uninteresting but love is still strong, then you simply have to learn some new positions and bring a little variety in the bedroom.

With comprehensive databases of sex hints, tips and information on the Internet and a whole section dedicated to sex positions, Lovecentria™ has all the answer for your concern. From the most mundane to the most exotic ones, we have them all accompanied by both text and incredible 3D animations that you can use to make sure you learn them right and make no embarrassing mistakes. Learning new positions can really strengthen the bond between two people especially if you get to see the fun side of trying and failing to get it right the first time.

Just think of all the pleasure lying ahead of you and focus on the fact that you are about to enjoy a great night and never worry that things might turn out wrong. You're just beginning to learn new positions so there's no reason to feel bad over a fumble, especially if the end result is mind blowing. Also, a really good idea is to try a decent number of positions in order to understand how they work.

The Lovecentria™ team has put together even more video and written guides that can add immensely to your knowledge and turn you into the ultimate lover. The entire website is packed with information that can help you understand what women think about men and how they see sex and what they like both in bed and in life.

New sex positions may well turn out to be just the beginning of your acquaintance with the Lovecentria™ website and you may find yourself returning time and again to read on other topics of interest. With 75 incredible 3D sex animations that you can control, you can surely become a bona fide sex god. For more info, just visit Lovecentria.