Loving A Bad Girl

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Dear Dudes,

I have this problem. I thought I would come to you for some advice. I don't know what to do, but I know that I am in a strange situation. Sometimes I want to get out of it, but other times I find it to be a real turn on.I met her in a bar. I was new to the area and I went to this bar that was near my house. At the time I didn't know it was a bar for bikers. I went in a few times and had a few drinks. I really liked it there. It was a manly type of place where I could blow off steam with other guys. I have never been around bikers, so this was a new experience for me. I have always liked motor cycles, but was afraid to ride one.

I met this nice looking girl and we started to date. She is the leather and Harley kind of woman. I kind of liked having her take me out for long rides on her bike. I have never done anything like this. At first all I was interested in was her lifestyle. I had no interested in her. One day we went to the bar and had a few drinks. She came back to my place and we had sex. Shortly after I moved out of my place and moved in with her. I really didn't know her too well, but I was interested in her lifestyle.

I soon found out that she is the bad girl type. She smokes cigarettes all day long. She doesn't wear panties. I thought I would dig a chick that doesn't wear panties, but she gets a lot of yeast infections. She drinks hard liquor all the time. She has an anger level so low, she will get pissed off if I look at her the wrong way. If she was a man, some guys would call her a tough ass. She won't take shit from no one. She tells me when and what to cook. She tells me when I need to clean the house. I am her slave.

I don't mind that stuff that much dudes, I really don't. What bothers me is how she acts in public. She acts like a total guy. I mean we will go over to my parents house for dinner and she will burp while she eats. One time we were in a fancy restaurant and she let out a big wet fart in front of everyone. It was so bad, there was a wet spot in her pants. I was so embarrassed that I asked for a doggie bag so I could eat the rest of my meal at home.

What should I do?

Signed, 'Stupid Fool' (That is what you get for signing with your real name!)

I think what you have is a strong case of the bad girl syndrome. Yes folks, we all will get turned on by a woman like this some time in our lives. Usually we get turned on by that tom boy in school and it doesn't go any further than that. I guess its like getting the chicken pox, it is best to get it while you are young. There isn't much you can do with these types of women. Uusally if you say too much to them they will leave you. You need to decide how much you can take.

If you can't take any more of this, you need to leave. I know that some men find it kinky to be with a bad girl. They like it when a woman tells them what to do. I'm sure some men would love your woman, yeast infections and all. I'm not much into this myself. I like you, find the motor cycle lifestyle to be interesting, but not worth per suing. I don't think I would last ten minutes on a motor cycle or on your girlfriend.

There isn't a whole lot I can tell you that you don't already know. I think you know what you want to do, but you don't have the balls to do it. Maybe that is why you got involved with a woman like this. You don't know what you want in life, so you want someone who will tell you what you want. There isn't much of a chance you will be able to talk much sense into a woman like this. She will be stuck in her ways and nothing is going to change you. You can try though. It doesn't hurt, unless you know she is going to bitch slap you if you piss her off. I would tell her that you need some room and you don't like being told what to do all the time.

If this doesn't work, then I would leave. There is no reason to put up with this sort of thing. Chances are she is taking out her problems on you. You can't be a punching bag all your life. Chances are if you split, then someone will fill your place. Let some other guy put up with her stuff.

Is She Cheating?

We have all seen or heard it before. Women are always accusing men of cheating on them. Sometimes they are right, but most of the times they are wrong. Not only are they wrong, but it gets tiresome hearing them complain that we are cheating when we really aren't. It is no surprise to you, women cheat. They do it just like men do. We would like to think that we are monogamous, but this really isn't the case. We are animals, animals with a desire to spread our genes. Women cheat for different reasons. Us men cheat because we want to pass on our genes. We want to pass along our family line.

This is common in the animal world. A woman cheats because she wants the best partner she can find. She only wants to bear the child of someone who has the best genes. This is true in the animal world and it is true in the human world.

Just because we have the ability to walk on two legs and use our thumbs to hold tools, doesn't mean that we aren't animals. We still eat meat, hell some of us still eat raw meat. We go out in nature and hunt and fish. It should be no surprise that we are still animals.

There are ways for you to tell if your woman is cheating on you. Don't make the same mistake that she makes... Don't accuse her of cheating every time she is away from you. Unless you have some hard proof, hold your breath. Here we will show you how to tell if she is cheating so you have the hard proof you need.

We all know that women tend to get more lax regarding the under clothes they wear after they have been in a long term relationship. They wear stuff that they feel is comfortable and not what she thinks will turn you on. If her closet looks like the outfits that you would see women in a nursing home have, you already know what I am talking about.

If she suddenly starts to wear sexy panties and bras, that isn't good news. Sometimes women will wear special under clothes from time to time to turn you on, but in a long term relationship that rarely happens. If she is always wearing hot panties and bras, that is a good sign she is cheating. If she wears the type of things she wore when she first met you, I would watch out.

How is your sex life? If she stops having sex with you, then you know something is up. Use common sense here. If she is having her period or not feeling well, then of course, you won't be getting any sex. But, if she has a ton of sex appeal and she isn't interested for a long period of time, that is a sign. It is a sign that she is getting her sexual needs met by someone else. If this is the case, dump her right away. This not only is wrong to you, but exposes you to diseases. She might not care about you, but you need to care about yourself.

Do you feel that your relationship is a long term one? How does she react to that? Does she blow it off, or even worse laugh? If she does, there is a good chance she is cheating. If she is cheating, she has no need for a long term relationship with you. Why would she need to? After she gets her fill of you she will dump you for the other guy.

Does she argue about anything and everything? Does she bitch at you about anything and everything? Does your breathing get on her nerves? This can be a sign that not only your relationship is about to end, but she is cheating. She will treat you like shit because she feels that way about her cheating. A woman's personality can be as thin as an onion skin.

Unless you are blind, you should be able to pick up this one. If your woman is spending more time that usual away from the house. If she is never home, she has to be some where. If there is a valid excuse, for example she has to take care of her ill mother, don't get alarmed. On the other hand, if there is no reason for her to be gone long periods of time, then something is up. If it is worth it to you, you can hire a private investigator to see what she is up to. Also, a friend might do this for some beer money. Try to get photos of her with her other lover. This way when she says that she isn't cheating, you can throw the pictures right into her face.

If you suspect your girlfriend is cheating on you, sniff her clothes. If you smell a cologne that isn't like yours or an unfamiliar scent, something could be up. Make sure she hasn't been hugging her father or something like that. Take a whiff, if it smells like a man and there is no reason why should be smelling that way, she could be cheating.

Men and women both cheat. That maybe a surprise to some, but not to most of us. No man should put up with this kind of behavior. You need to dump your cheating woman as fast as you can. Don't ever take a woman back who has cheated on you. She will do it again and again. Stand up for yourself, you are the only one that will do it.

Paying For Sex?

Week after week you see the money in your bank account going down and down. You are spending a lot of money on your date, you are having a good time, you are getting some action. Everything seem great doesn't it? It all seems great until you realize that you will have to get a second job just to afford the dates. You are enjoying yourself and you don't want the dates to end. What do you do? Is she a whore or a nice girl? That sounds blunt, but it is something you need to ask yourself. While she might not be a whore on the corner, you very well might be paying money for sex. Men do this all the time and don't realize it. Pay attention to the times you get laid. Do you mostly get laid after you spend a lot of money on her? If the answer is yes, then chances are you are paying for sex and not knowing it.

Ask her about her ex's. What kind of jobs they had. If her last few ex's had high paying jobs, chances are she is a gold digger. She doesn't want you, she doesn't like your company, all she likes is your wallet.

I often find that older men get trapped into this. They are searching for a young lady to make them forget they are old. Chances are that at their age, they have built up a nice savings and have a good job. This is pay dirt for the gold digger.

If a woman senses that you are very lonely, she might also try to gold dig. They know that you will do almost anything to be with her. Really, you are paying for the sex. That is all that you doing. That, and you are paying for someone to lie to you.

This might sound like an odd suggestion, but hear me out. If you read closely, it will all make sense.

Have you ever thought about visiting an escort. Now, pick up your jaw and give me a few seconds to explain myself. I know that going to these 'working girls' is against everything that your mother taught you.

You are paying for the sex any ways. What is the difference really? Do you think that because one calls themselves a whore and another one is lying to you, makes that much of a difference?

I know what you are thinking. 'There are too many STDs out there'. You are right there is. There is also a risk of getting something even if you use a condom. This is also true for having sex with your gold digging friend. There is no way around it.

There are many types of sex that you can do with an escort that is almost risk free. Here are some suggests for types of sex acts that you can do.

Oral sex. We all love oral sex. If you wear a condom, this is almost risk free. Have her suck it twice, you will be glad you did!

Masturbation. It is almost impossible for you to get an STD with the escort masturbating you. Enjoy it. There are some great ways that she can spice this up so it feels good as gold. She can cuddle your testicles with one hand while she jerks away with the other hand. Just think of the stuff you like to do, when she does it, it will feel much better.

In the long run you will be saving money if you go to an escort. Often times the very good looking ones cost at least 100 an hour. If you think about it, even getting laid two times a week, you are still saving money.

The escort won't ask you to pay her 400 dollar phone bill. She won't ask you for money to fix her car. It is purely sex for money. That is it. You don't have to call her in the morning to tell her how special it was for you!

All in all, be thrifty with your money. If you are paying for sex, get the most bang for your buck.

Paranoid (Cheating)

Have you ever cheated on your woman? Many men have, but few will admit to it. Sometimes I think this is the worst thing a person can do to another. I'm sure that you could argue that killing someone is worse, but when you cheat, you are killing them emotionally. A person who has went through such an experience, never comes back the same. I really do think that being cheated on, changes a person. Women view cheating on many levels. Some are quick to jump the gun while other women are more thoughtful when it comes to it. In this article, we will discuss what a woman views as cheating.

Most women view having sex with another woman as cheating. This should be common sense. Though, I have heard many times where a man will claim that he didn't know it was cheating. He will make up some lame ass excuse about how he thought the relationship was on the rocks.

Having sex with someone and cheating on your woman is plain wrong. Think of it from this perspective. If you catch a disease and come home and sleep with her, then you will give it to her. Your 'fun' with your mistress might be great, but your woman has nothing to do with it. By risking her health, you are doing something worse than cheating, you could end up killing her.

If you aren't getting any sex in a relationship or it has turned south, you need to get out of it. You have no right to expose someone else to diseases. It is your responsibility to do something about it. You are an adult now, you need to do things on your own.

Some women view kissing as cheating as well. In my mind, it is cheating. I'm not sure how someone can justify getting aroused enough by someone to kiss them and not think they are cheating.

If aunt Betsy comes over from Alaska and she kisses you on the cheek because she hasn't seen you for a long time, that isn't cheating. Of course if it is a relative or close friend, then its not cheating. If it is out of lust it is. Chances are, kissing will only lead to other things.

If you are kissing another woman, it brings up a lot of questions. It would sound to me that you aren't in the stage that you are having sex with this woman, but it is coming soon. Most men aren't able to kiss a woman without having sexual thoughts.

The same questions apply in my mind as if you were having sex with someone else. There must be some aspect of the current relationship you are in that is lacking or you wouldn't be doing such things. It is better to fix these problems than it is to run away from them. All you will be doing is ensuring that nothing positive happens.

I know that it might be hard to believe, but some women believe that if you are just friends with a woman, then you must be cheating. To some women this is cheating, thought I think this is going a little too far.

Women feel that if you are confiding in another woman, then that is cheating. If you are telling her things that you would have told your girlfriend, you are cheating. They think that you should pour your heart and soul into them instead of this other woman. They might be right to a certain degree, but this isn't cheating. You should be able to go to your girlfriend and talk to them about anything and everything, but there are things you can't talk about to her. Try talking to her about how bitchy she is during her period, you will soon find out that you can't talk about anything and everything.

Some women will always think their men are cheating. Regardless how you try to prove yourself, they will always be lurking around the corner trying to catch you in the act. I have known several women like this. I have even known one man like this. I worked with his wife in a small office. She told him that we were talking every day at lunch and he flipped out. He accused us of having sex together. That is a bit extreme, but people do react this way.

I would suggest that if your woman constantly thinks you are cheating, you need to talk to her about it. Some people do act in suspicious manners, while some women have this fixation that all men are scum of the earth. You need to decide which camp she is in.

Some women constantly nag and bitch that you are cheating on them when you aren't. I think sometimes this is because they were cheated on in the past and are afraid that it will happen to them again. Other times, I think they are paranoid and have emotional problems.

Needless to say, regardless of why she thinks this, there is a problem. If in fact you are cheating on her, you already know what the problem is. But, if she is fixed on the idea that you are cheating and it is ruining your life, you need to get out. This is one of the worst forms of harassment there is. There is no need for you to have to put up with this sort of thing. This is the type of thing in a relationship that will drive a man to kill himself or to drink.

If you are cheating, cut off your penis. You are a worthless bastard who only thinks of yourself. If you aren't cheating and she always complains that you are, find out why she feels this way. If she is just paranoid, dump her. Life is too short for her games.

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